About Fred Stoeker

Facing a moment of truth regarding his sexual purity a couple years after his wedding in 1981, Fred Stoeker is well aware of the battle men face with sexual sin. After stumbling upon his father's Playboy magazine under his Dad's bed in first grade, Fred struggled with pornographic materials for the next twenty years or so. Despite entering a committed relationship with Jesus Christ at age 23, Fred continued to struggle with pornography until his wedding the following year. He quickly found that marriage did not eliminate the problem and the negative effects of his sexual sin upon his intimacy with God and with his wife Brenda grew more each year.

Fred had graduated from Stanford University with a BA with Honors and had begun a successful sales and consulting business in Des Moines, IA, his marriage was struggling, as well as his feelings of personal integrity. Embarking on a study of Christian literature on marriage as well as reviewing his studies on Human Sexuality at Stanford, Fred began to search for answers to his problems. Daily Bible study allowed the word of God to wash him clean and to begin to transform his mind, and before long, God had used Job 31:1 and Luke 6:46 to begin to break the stranglehold that sexual sin had over his life.

Through the years, Fred watched for a Christian book to be written that would convey the practical knowledge that the Holy Spirit had taught him during his battle for sexual purity. He knew such a book was necessary because he'd been teaching these practical principles over the years and had seen the impact they had in the lives of men in his city. Imagine his surprise when God tapped Fred himself to write that practical book he'd been watching for. Just as God had promised Fred during prayer, God took this practical message all over the world through the books Every Man's Battle and Every Young Man's Battle. Every Man's Battle is currently translated into Spanish, Portuguese, Korean, Indonesian, Chinese and Russian, and has sold nearly 900,000 copies worldwide already.

Every Man's Marriage was written as a partner book for Every Man's Battle and was awarded the Silver Medallion Book of the Year by the ECPA in the Marriage category in 2002. Every Young Man's Battle won Gold Medallion honors in the Teen Category in 2003.

Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle (October, 2003) and Every Man's Challenge (March 2004) mark the fourth and fifth books authored by Fred in the Every Man's Series with his co-author, Stephen Arterburn and his editor, Mike Yorkey. Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle won Gold Medallion honors in the Parenting Category in 2004.

Fred's marriage to Brenda now spans thirty happy years in the Des Moines area and has been blessed by the birth of two sons and two daughters, one now married, one in graduate school and two in college, all serving God faithfully and purely. On top of that, Brenda co-authored the book Every Heart Restored, a book designed to help wives restore their hearts for their husbands in the wake of sexual sin. Every Heart Restored was awarded the Silver Medallion Book of the Year by the ECPA in the Marriage category in 2005. Brenda also co-wrote The Healing Choice with Susan Allen in 2008 to help women heal, in the wake of their husbands’ sexual sin.

Living True Ministries 

To become a pivotal voice of reason in the midst of cultural decay. 

To practically elucidate God’s truth, encouraging and equipping men and women to rise up and be Christian, rather than to seem Christian. 

Integrity, Congruency, Character, Urgency & Normality

"To Be, Rather Than to Seem." If I had a family crest, this would be the motto emblazoned across my shield and mantle. As America shifts from a Christian culture to a post-Christian culture, the hearts of many in the church have grown cold. Cold hearts are satisfied to simply seem Christian. No sacrifice is necessary. No pain is necessary. You see, to seem Christian costs you nothing but your manhood.

To be a Christian can cost you everything. Perhaps your girlfriend. Your friends. Your pride. Your freedom to choose your way. But you get to keep your heroic heart. Your courage to stand in the face of opposition. Your integrity. Your manhood. Your intimacy with your Father.

Through Living True Ministries, conference speaking and writing, I'm bent on challenging people to become sexually pure and to connect in true intimate relationship with their Father in Heaven. So far, I've spoken in or been televised into 59 nations, and while that is mind-boggling already, I pray that God continues to open the doors wider and wider.

As for writing, I never dreamed I'd be an author one day. Even after writing Every Man's Battle, I put practically every person I knew in the Acknowledgements section, certain that this would be my one and only book and my only chance to thank them all. But now with twelve books available and two more in the planning stages, I guess I am an author after all. And, since I am one, I'm grateful that God is in the center of what He has chosen to do in my life, allowing Living True Ministries to win two Gold Medallion awards and two Silver Medallion awards for writing excellence.

As God does with most of us, He has done far more than I could have ever asked or could have thought up on my own. Before I even began writing Every Man's Battle, all I had been praying for was to have a voice in God's kingdom. I just wanted a chance to speak for Him, no matter how small. He chose to completely blow my expectations out of the water and to allow me to speak for Him world-wide through books. On one level, I'm surprised and amazed, but on another, I'm not at all. As we walk in obedience, He loves to bless His children until our joy bubbles over. And now He has even allowed me to become a music producer, and we've recently released my first music CD, Win This War, whose lyrics promote sexual purity and deep intimacy with God. What a Father! What a God!

Writing is still my first call and so my speaking schedule is limited, but if you are interested in live appearance, you may email fred@fredstoeker.com at any time for more information.

As God did with Joseph, may He bless everything you put your hand to. Amen.